Telephone calls

A system for transmitting voices over a distance using wire or radio, by converting acoustic vibrations to electrical signals.

Connecting, unity

According to actual circumstances I contacted spontaneously 20people from my phonebook per day. The intention was to listen to what is happening in their life, make sure they feel good and see how I can help them feel better.
It felt emotions of fear of criticism and rejection.
How rational is it to be afraid of talking with another person?
It relates to our self image and vulnerabilities.
Focus on the good time of the past shared with them and let go of the need from the ego to “make” a good impression.

Empathy

The facts don’t count when your attitude is right: have fun, get excited, be positive. More important than the word and the sound of the word is the intention behind it. Taking responsibility to be a leader and setting the tone to synchronize brains.
When observing other people and yourself you can find out what their focus is by listening to what they’re talking about. The three basic areas people talk about are: people, events, future.
Everyone’s favorite subject is themselves and want to feel important.

Listen more than you talk

God gave you two ears and one mouth use them proportionately.
When having a conversation, it’s better to ask questions than constantly make statements.
The most effective one-on-one communicators ask questions and listen.
Slow down and be comfortable with blanks and silence.
Showing genuine concern and interest, enthusiastically recognize the person, add a positive dynamic in the conversation.

Observations

Who do you listen to morphs into who do you get counsel from, who do you get opinions from?
If you keep listening to certain people and hanging around certain people, you’ll turn out just like them.
In some conversation, we can see ourself like in a mirror. It’s a wonderful filter to see where we are when we stay open-minded.

Some people feel obliged to answer even if they are busy, some are distracting themselves with multi tasking (cook, walk…)
Some people will hang up and feel sorry, some will just ignore. Some will ask what you want and send several messages by curiosity without calling back.
Some people hang up with a smile, positive, some will send a thankful message and other inviting or requesting to call them again.

Evolution of communication

Instant, voice messages are great for specifics.
A good classical phone call is often way more powerful.
Video call, even more direct, adds another dimension and breaks intimacy barrier.
To be efficient it’s interesting to optimize and chose the best channel according the situation and the person we want to reach.
Clarify what we want and awareness of our intention is key to choose the most appropriate and congruent channel for delivering our message.
And remembering that everything we speak or write is subject to interpretation from the other person's perspective.